Monday, 5 December 2016

8 Tips To Get Over A Break Up

It's over, you feel like your whole world has come tumbling down and you just want to hide from everyone. It doesn't matter whether it was long-term, short-term, friends with benefits or an unrequited love - if you cared for them it still hurts. Here are my top tips that will help you get over a fresh break up.


It's ok to be sad

If there's one thing I've learnt this year, it's this. Bottling up your emotions and trying to ignore the pain is never a good idea. Life throws stuff like this at us so we will become stronger as a person, we need to experience the pain so we can learn from it. If you're reading this right now whilst going through a break up I know you'll think I'm crazy, I thought the exact same when someone told me, however it's only now that I'm through mine that I realise how true this is, I now know my worth and know exactly what I want from a relationship. No one expects you to be happy after a break up so if you want to bawl your eyes out whilst eating a whole tub of Ben and Jerry's then do it.

Remove him off all social media

While this may seem a little extreme and childish to some, still seeing what your ex is up to will drive you insane. Seeing their friends/followers list grow and seeing them 'like' others photos is not something you want to see and think about so removing them is probably the best idea.

Avoid ranting about the break up on social media

As much of a good idea it may seem at the time, do you really want to be the topic of conversation in someones group chat? Didn't think so. This is never a good idea and you will only end up feeling embarrassed the morning after.

Don't immediately try to remain friends

In my personal opinion trying to keep the friendship you both had straight after the break up is verging on impossible. You won't be able to move on as generally one wants to be friends and the other wants more which could potentially cause more heart break.

Try to keep it a clean break

Similar to the above, try to avoid living in the past by still seeing/speaking/sleeping with them for comfort. For me to move on I have to cut all contact, don't get me wrong it still hurts but if you carry on seeing each other, especially if you're still sleeping together WILL NOT HELP YOU MOVE ON and it will only delay your healing process.

Spend time with your friends

At this moment in time you want to be on your own as little as possible and that's exactly what friends are for. Whether it be a night in with a takeaway, out for dinner and a couple of drinks or even a phone call your friends should be there for you during this difficult time. Try to avoid constantly talking about the break up though and enjoy catching up and having fun together.

A rebound relationship is never a good idea

If you're still heartbroken over your ex, adding another person to the equation probably isn't the brightest idea. It can cloud your judgement of feelings for the new person or it could go the other way and make you miss your ex even more as you will end up comparing them to each other. You'll just ending up hurting your rebound and that's not nice.

It's all about YOU

Now is the time to do the things you've always wanted to do as you're now a free man/woman and have no one to answer to. It's actually quite an exciting thought! Whether it be getting that new hairstyle you always wanted to try, joining a new gym or even travelling the world - now is the time to do everything that makes you happy.


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  1. Love this post! Definitely putting yourself first and cutting all ties is so important. I think it's so much harder if you try to continue contact. xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

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  2. Undoubtedly, it is really tough to get over a break up. Author’s 8 step approach is helpful in this regards but the approach, I think, very important is remove off all social media and engagement in friends. I got the same experience two years back and I followed this approach with some other approaches from http://lovesagame.com/stages/

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